Most men I know are dying inside, quietly.

We wake up every day with a weight on our chest we refuse to name. We feel disconnected from our wives or partners, distant from our kids and friends. We grind through jobs while quietly shaming ourselves along the way. Without realizing it, we chain ourselves to an identity we never wanted. So we bury the pain under work, addictions, distractions, or a smile that says, “I’m fine.”

I was that man. I lived there for two decades. Bound by invisible chains, I didn’t even realize I had forged myself. I spent over twenty years running from my own shadows. I ran from pain I couldn’t name. I ran from parts of me I believed made me unworthy of love. I over-performed. I hid. I coped in unhealthy ways. I escaped into false realities, while doing everything I could, to be who I thought I was supposed to be in other peoples eyes.

On the outside, I was solid. I looked strong, successful, lived a life of adventure flying helicopters all over the US. I acted like I had my shit together. Inside, I was drowning! I was drowning in shame, guilt, silence and confusion. I lived with fear that if people really saw me, they’d walk away and I would be left all alone.

I tried to fix my issues on my own, the way my parents advised me to, church leaders directed me to, friends, loved ones and the world expected me to fix my issues. I went to therapy more times than I can count, with numerous therapists, but it always felt like we were talking around the real pain. No therapist went deep enough. No one asked the questions that gave me the safety to crack me open.

So I barely kept surviving instead of thriving.

Then life stripped me bare. After two decades of struggling with pain, failure, and stuck in a rut… it took almost losing another marriage and an identity loss for me to finally stop fighting myself. I finally realized that the chains were never holding me — I was the one holding onto them.

When I realized I was holding the chains, I was finally able to face the dark shadows. I was able to put a label on the chains and break into an incredible Awakening!

Awakened Iron and Soul was born from that liberation. Its not a coaching program, not a quick fix program, not a therapy session — it’s an awakening!

A sacred space where men stop performing and start becoming. A space where men can be real, raw and unmasked. Where we don’t chase perfection… We pursue truth. Where we lead with integrity, presence, humility, and love. The kind that burns through illusion and brings you back to your center. Here we face the darkness, not to destroy it, but to integrate it. Where we build a new kind of strength, not from armor, but from raw honesty to ourselves.

“Iron” is what’s forged when we face our fire and don’t run. “Soul” is what returns when we do.

I don’t present this to you as a therapist, a counselor, or a guru. I present this as a man who’s been through the same struggles, the same fire, asking the same questions as you. I have broken the chains, and still walk the path every day — to a new Awakening.

My role isn’t to fix you, it’s to walk beside you. To ask the questions that awaken your truth.

To invite you to remember the strength and peace that’s already within you.

If you’re tired of carrying the weight alone. If you’re ready to break the chains you

forged to survive, and rise into the freedom of thriving — this is your moment.

Then welcome, brother.

You’ve found your way home.